The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}
Formerly the Parenting after Trauma podcast, internationally recognized children's mental health expert Robyn Gobbel decodes the most baffling behaviors for parents of kids with vulnerable nervous systems. If you're parenting a child who has experienced trauma or toxic stress or a child with a neuroimmune disorder, sensory processing, or other nervous system vulnerability, this show will let you know you are not alone. You can stop playing behavior whack-a-mole because Robyn offers you tools that actually work.
You can become your child's expert, feel more confident as a parent, and bring more connection and clarity into your family.
Educators, therapists, coaches and consultants- you too can learn all about what behavior really is and become more effective at helping the families you support. You can love your work again!
The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}
Ep. 212: Are We Just Rewarding Bad Behavior?
One of the harder things to navigate when shifting to a nervous system lens on behavior is the feeling that a lot of the strategies seem like they are rewarding bad behavior.
Strategies that invite regulation, connection, and felt safety are usually strategies that feel good.
If our kids feel good after bad behavior, will they have MORE bad behavior??
In this episode, you’ll learn
- What it might be signaling if you’re wondering if you’re rewarding bad behavior
- How to avoid unintentionally increasing the likelihood of dysregulation in the future
- Why it’s reallllllly important to offer connection, co-regulation and felt safety strategies when you are in connection mode
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
- Enabling vs. Low-Demand Parenting {EP 144}
- Is It Time to Raise the Bar? {EP 207}
- Amanda Diekman - @lowdemandamanda
Read the full transcript at:RobynGobbel.com/rewardbadbehavior
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