The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}
Formerly the Parenting after Trauma podcast, internationally recognized children's mental health expert Robyn Gobbel decodes the most baffling behaviors for parents of kids with vulnerable nervous systems. If you're parenting a child who has experienced trauma or toxic stress or a child with a neuroimmune disorder, sensory processing, or other nervous system vulnerability, this show will let you know you are not alone. You can stop playing behavior whack-a-mole because Robyn offers you tools that actually work.
You can become your child's expert, feel more confident as a parent, and bring more connection and clarity into your family.
Educators, therapists, coaches and consultants- you too can learn all about what behavior really is and become more effective at helping the families you support. You can love your work again!
Episodes
296 episodes
Ep. 215: The #1 Ingredient of Self Regulation
Monitoring and modifying are the two essential elements of regulation. ~ Dr. Dan SiegelWhen we really understand what makes up the skill of self-regulation, we can be more intentional about helping our kids develop those ...
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EP 214: Helping Kids with Medical Trauma with Rose LaPiere
Medical trauma can feel confusing because in many circumstances, we are seeking out the very medical interventions that our kids experience as traumatic. Trauma is in the eye of the beholder. Some kids experience trauma due to their...
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Episode 214
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Ep. 213: Resentment & Parenting
Resentment. We’ve all felt it.Very little about this parenting journey has gone according to plan.We’ve done the hard work- the never-ending work actually - of rewiring everything we thought we knew about behavior, what it means t...
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Ep. 212: Are We Just Rewarding Bad Behavior?
One of the harder things to navigate when shifting to a nervous system lens on behavior is the feeling that a lot of the strategies seem like they are rewarding bad behavior.Strategies that invite regulation, connection, and felt safety ...
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Ep. 211: Hard? Too Hard? For PARENTS!!!
We talk a lot about hard very too hard for your kids (thanks Amanda Diekman for that hard vs. too hard language!).But have you considered applying that concept to yourself? This is intensive parenting! Far beyond when parenti...
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{BONUS} Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior- webinar replay
This BONUS episode is the audio from my FREE webinar, Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior.This webinar aired lived on 02/04/2025. You can watch the video webinar for free over at
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Ep 210: Sabotage and Being Set Up
It’s very common to feel like our kids are either intentionally sabotaging good things or that they are purposefully setting us up to be mad or disappointed or to have to say no. You aren’t imagining this phenomenon!All human...
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Ep. 209: No One is Coming to Save Us
It took me a looooooong time to really truly believe and understand that- no one is coming to save me.I had to do the hard work to take responsibility for my own triggers, my own nervous system, my own change. This only happened after oo...
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Ep. 208: Bravely Being With Grief with Rose LaPiere
Rose LaPiere LPC, RPT-S, and ACS invites into a space of safety and connection so we can make room for grief. Rose brings her own experiences of grief to her work as a play therapist (and co-leader in Robyn’s immersive training program for pare...
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Episode 208
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Ep. 207: Is It Time to Raise the Bar?
You’ve lowered stress and demands. You’ve reframed your child’s behavior as a response from their autonomic nervous system. You’ve worked hard to help your child’s stress response system rest and begin to healNow what?In this e...
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Episode 207
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Ep. 206: Punishment Free Parenting with Jon Fogel
Jon Fogel is a dad who combined his passion for parenting, neuroscience, and impacting the world to create a viral social media account (@wholeparent) and then to publish his book, Punishment-Free Parenting. Jon and I get lost in so...
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Episode 206
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Ep. 205: Scaffolding Felt Safety
How do we help kids feel safe when they are safe? How do we help them take in the safety that exists in their life when their life experiences seem to have convinced them that nothing is safe. Scaffolding. Yes, we can scaffold felt ...
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Episode 205
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Ep. 204: The Way of Play with Dr. Tina Payne Bryson
Play makes kids stronger. It’s necessary for their physical and emotional development, and even their academic development. Play helps kids work through and make sense of hard things. A few months ago I went searching for a resource...
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Episode 204
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REPLAY: Living with Someone Chronically Dysregulated
Do you live with someone or love someone who is chronically dysregulated?This episode isn’t an episode that is going to tell you what to do.This is an episode of commiseration. Of “I see you.”It is exhausting to live wit...
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REPLAY: Silliness as a Sign of Dysregulation
Have you ever felt confused by your child’s silly behavior? It seems like they are having fun, but it doesn’t feel good at all?In this episode, you’ll learnHow to tell the difference between fun-silly and dysregulated-...
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REPLAY: You Aren't Doing it Wrong
You aren’t parenting wrong. It’s not your fault. Asking “What am I doing wrong?” is the wrong question! Here’s what be curious about instead.In this episode, you’ll learn:That you’re not doing it wrong (well, not any more wro...
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REPLAY: Grief in Parenting
Robyn explores the grief in parenting kids with vulnerable nervous systems In this episode, you’ll learn:The relationship between trauma and griefWhy it's important to make space for grief in our kids and in our...
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REPLAY: Not Flipping Your Lid...When Your Kid Flips Theirs
How do we not flip our lids when our kids are going bananas? It's HARD. Because dysregulation is quite literally contagious!! And if we flip our lids too then it's usually pretty hard to deescalate the situation. Offeri...
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REPLAY: Felt Safety (Between) - Part 3
Cues of safety, danger, or life threat come from three places- inside, outside, and between.In part 3 of this series on felt safety, we are exploring felt safety from between- from relationship!In this episode, you’ll learn...
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REPLAY: Felt Safety (Outside) - Part 2
In this second episode of a three-part series on felt safety, we are going to explore all the ways our kids (and ourselves) are neuroceiving safety or danger from what’s happening in the environment.In this episode, you’ll learn
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REPLAY: Felt Safety (Inside) - Part 1
Let’s go back to basics! Last week we talked about seeing behavior through the lens of the nervous system and then took a deep-dive into co-regulation.This week begins a three-part deep-dive into the foundational concept of felt safety.<...
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EP 203: An Underwhelming Grand Reveal!
Hey everyone, this is Alex, Robyn's son and podcast editor. To be 100% honest, we forgot to record a podcast for this week. Luckily, I have stepped in to fill the podcast void and to make my grand reveal!In this episode, you’ll learn<...
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Episode 203
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EP 202: Low-Demand Holidays
We think a lot about how to lower demands for our kids, but in this episode we’re going to talk about how we can lower demands for ourselves, specifically during the holiday season.Regardless of where you live in the world and what holid...
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Episode 202
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EP 201: Walking on Eggshells
Living with someone with a vulnerable nervous system almost certainly leaves you feeling like you are walking on eggshells.It’s that sense of not knowing what’s going to happen next, having to tread lightly, and being constantly at risk ...
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Episode 201
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Ep. 200!: Gratitude for Our Watchdog & Possum Parts
In this special 200th episode, we’re exploring how to bring compassion, curiosity, and gratitude to our kids’ (and our own) “Watchdog” and “Possum” parts as overworked companions trying their best to help us survive. With acceptance and underst...
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Episode 200
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