The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}
Formerly the Parenting after Trauma podcast, internationally recognized children's mental health expert Robyn Gobbel decodes the most baffling behaviors for parents of kids with vulnerable nervous systems. If you're parenting a child who has experienced trauma or toxic stress or a child with a neuroimmune disorder, sensory processing, or other nervous system vulnerability, this show will let you know you are not alone. You can stop playing behavior whack-a-mole because Robyn offers you tools that actually work.
You can become your child's expert, feel more confident as a parent, and bring more connection and clarity into your family.
Educators, therapists, coaches and consultants- you too can learn all about what behavior really is and become more effective at helping the families you support. You can love your work again!
The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}
Ep. 215: The #1 Ingredient of Self Regulation
Monitoring and modifying are the two essential elements of regulation. ~ Dr. Dan Siegel
When we really understand what makes up the skill of self-regulation, we can be more intentional about helping our kids develop those skills.
We can also be more understanding and compassionate when they aren't able to use those skills!
This episode explores the skills of monitoring (noticing) and modifying (changing) our level of arousal and activation as the main ingredients of self-regulation.
Remember that self-regulation can only develop with enough co-regulation. But once there is a strong foundation of co-regulation, we can encourage our kids to develop the skills to notice and change (when appropriate or needed!) their level of arousal.
In this episode, you’ll learn
- The main ingredients of self-regulation- monitor & modify
- How to scaffold up to teaching kids to monitor and modify
- How to have appropriate expectations about your child’s ability to monitor and modify, even after they have learned the skills
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
- The Whole-Brain Child - Dr. Dan Siegal
- No-Drama Discipline - Dr. Dan Siegal
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/ingredient
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