The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}
Formerly the Parenting after Trauma podcast, internationally recognized children's mental health expert Robyn Gobbel decodes the most baffling behaviors for parents of kids with vulnerable nervous systems. If you're parenting a child who has experienced trauma or toxic stress or a child with a neuroimmune disorder, sensory processing, or other nervous system vulnerability, this show will let you know you are not alone. You can stop playing behavior whack-a-mole because Robyn offers you tools that actually work.
You can become your child's expert, feel more confident as a parent, and bring more connection and clarity into your family.
Educators, therapists, coaches and consultants- you too can learn all about what behavior really is and become more effective at helping the families you support. You can love your work again!
The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}
EP 239: When Your Words and Feelings Don’t Match
Have you ever smiled while you were seething inside? Or told your child “it’s fine” when it absolutely wasn’t? That mismatch (incongruent affect, we’re gonna talk psychology mumbo jumbo) isn’t just confusing. It’s a cue of danger- to your child’s nervous system AND to yours!
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- Why kids are biologically wired to trust their caregivers and what happens when their neuroception contradicts the words they hear.
- How “faking calm” backfires, and why matching energy without dysregulation is a more effective way to bring safety.
- How growing your window of tolerance and strengthening your owl brain helps you stay regulated while feeling big, hard feelings.
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/incongruentaffect
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