The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}
Formerly the Parenting after Trauma podcast, internationally recognized children's mental health expert Robyn Gobbel decodes the most baffling behaviors for parents of kids with vulnerable nervous systems. If you're parenting a child who has experienced trauma or toxic stress or a child with a neuroimmune disorder, sensory processing, or other nervous system vulnerability, this show will let you know you are not alone. You can stop playing behavior whack-a-mole because Robyn offers you tools that actually work.
You can become your child's expert, feel more confident as a parent, and bring more connection and clarity into your family.
Educators, therapists, coaches and consultants- you too can learn all about what behavior really is and become more effective at helping the families you support. You can love your work again!
The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}
EP 242: Why It's Hard for Your Kid to Take Responsibility
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You ask your child what happened, and before you can finish the sentence, they’re already saying, “It wasn’t my fault!”
Sound familiar?
I know this is SO frustrating! But there’s a reason this is so hard, and it has everything to do with (of course!) the brain and nervous system.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- Why taking responsibility is an Owl brain skill that depends on reflection, regulation, and cause-and-effect thinking
- How Watchdog and Possum states block the ability to reflect and instead create defensive, blame-shifting language
- Simple ways to grow your child’s capacity for responsibility through connection, regulation, and safety, not shame
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
- All About Me workbook ($15 download on my website or FREE with your Club membership)
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/responsibility
Let's hang out this summer at two different trainings for professionals!
Therapy with Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors- June 1 & 2 in Syracuse, NY RobynGobbel.com/NY
Presence in Practice- July 15, 16, & 17 in Rockford, MI (outside Grand Rapids) RobynGobbel.com/Michigan2026
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Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)